When I was learning critical theory, my lecturer showed me the quotation of Genesis 4 (it’s on the bottom right part of this photo). I forget which session it was told but I still remember his words. He says knowledge fruit and the verb know both refer to sex which means God forbids them to have sex in His house AND sex is an act that can make you know the “good and evil” in this world. Here, he blends it with our world in which our parents’ house is the Eden (God’s house). Well, in most cases, Indonesian parents still think sex is a taboo act which can be done only between husband and wife. Thus, many parents kick out their children who conduct that act or push them to marry the respective partner.
However, because knowledge is a powerful thing that has good and evil in one package, unmarried men and women know that they can’t do that in their houses. So, they find another place where sex is permitted. Either they have read the Bible or Al-Quran, they understand that parents’ house is the Eden. Who doesn’t want to live in the Eden by the way? Everything is available without much effort from us to get it.
Nevertheless, I have two disagreement with the way most Indonesian parents and people think about sex:
- Sex isn’t taboo. In fact, parents have to educate their children about sex. Not to tell them that it’s taboo but to share with them in a logical way. Indonesian people need to realize about that but don’t get too proud as well by announcing it to the world. It’s called narcissism not open-minded.
- People shouldn’t hide that they already have sex from everyone, especially parents, just because you don’t want to be kicked out or outcast by them. I mean, God indeed says that if you already have sex then you are, whether you like it or not, someone who already has a knowledge. Therefore, you need to grow up and build your own house (path) away from your parents. don’t depend on them. But, you have to make note that this situation can be different in some cases.
This writing is only a draft for my future essay about Marriage in which I will discuss it according to Islam, Christian, and Catholic and relate them with Indonesian culture (because I live in Indonesia). I hope there’s someone who will be interested in giving their opinion about this so that my essay will have many references.