People say that bidding a goodbye is the hardest part in the whole life. The good news is it is true. Making a decision to say goodbye is always hard for most people, yet they do it. Many reasons go out from their mouth, such as there is nothing they can fight for anymore.
“What can we do when a relationship is not longer as strong as yesterday because our couple chooses to ignore it?”
No, no one can do anything. Even the wisest man on this earth, cannot do anything to improve the already-ignored relationship. Bidding a goodbye seems to be the best solution.
When we already say goodbye, there are times when we regret everything. Wish we could turn back time. But, no we cannot. Once the decision has been made, you cannot take it back and pretend that we can back to the way we used to. If you naively do it, the atmosphere will not be the same, ever.
Cry until your eyes puff. Scream until your vocal cords hurt. Get furious until you are short of breath. Curse as many as you can. Do it all if those can make you satisfy.
Don’t blame yourself by saying “I shouldn’t do it,” “I’ve made a big mistake,” “how stupid I am,” and so on. It is useless.
If you need to isolate yourself for days, weeks, or months then do it. Look into a mirror when you are crying and angry. See how hurt you are and how red your eyes are.
After you feel that you are quite ok, take a deep breath and write down your thoughts in a piece of paper. Spit it out, don’t hesitate. If your eyes are teary again, let it out. Cry as much as you want. Make the paper wet and unreadable. Write it down until you are exhausted.
Then, take another paper. Write the word “goodbye” until the paper is full of your hand-writing. When it’s already full, look it carefully. Take a picture of that paper and post it to your blog, instagram, facebook, twitter, or whatever. Make people know and read your post.
After you do all that stuffs, open the door and step the border. Don’t try to forget your couple after bidding a goodbye. On the contrary, you have to remember them; remembering that you have said a farewell message. With that memory in your mind, live your life and chase your dream.
Someday the almighty time will take everything away. Memory, pain, angry and regret will be gradually replaced by your life and dream. And when someone dig the hidden treasure, you shall remember it in nostalgic and hilarious way. Hopefully, it will come true. We wish we can do.